10 TIPS TO BALANCE WORK AND FAMILY

Hello my beautiful people welcome to my blog! On today’s post will be sharing on 10 TIPS On How TO BALANCE WORK AND FAMILY

Are you stressed trying to balance work and family? Find these ten simple tips that can help you manage your time more productively and give you peace of mind.

Have you ever felt lost and messed up after waking up in the morning? Going to work feeling completely drained off and not knowing how to balance your family all together. I have been there! When my daughter was born my life completely changed and once I got to back it was an altogether different struggle trying to maintain a balance.

Once I was back to work, there were many instances when I felt like things were slipping out of my hand. The house was in a constant state of mess, the mom guilt of not being able to spend enough time with my daughter was on the peak. I struggled to cope up with all the work in the office, I even struggled to get food on the table and my biggest was getting laundry done in time so that we could have fresh and clean clothes in the morning to get to work. I have been there and there are still times when I feel the same way.

Although looking at it today, I feel more in control of my time but after incorporating a few simple habits in my daily routine, I have been able to have a better balance in work and my personal life. Following these simple habits in my daily routine have helped me take control of situations, get things done, and most lately I have not been losing my mind trying to do it all.

1. Wake up an hour early before everyone wakes up

The more I speak about how much this simple little habit has changed my life for the better is less. I wake up at 6:00 AM (an hour before my daughter) in the morning every day. This way I get to spend some quality time with myself in the morning when the house is quiet, prepare breakfast for everyone, get the house in order, write down my to-do tasks for the day in my diary and get ready for work before my daughter wakes up. This habit makes me feel very organized and, I get a sense of accomplishment that I was able to get some work done in the morning. It took me some time to get used to the idea of waking up at 6 AM in the morning and once I did get in the flow, I have never stopped.

2. Plan outfits for the next day a night before

I am sure many of you might find yourself in a similar boat like this when you are getting late for work and the child is getting cranky and you are not able to find clothes to wear. During my initial back to work months after my maternity leave, I would feel the same way. Now I have a small space in my Waldrop where I keep our clothes ironed and neatly folded to wear to work,I do this in the night before going to bed and it just takes me 5 minutes to put it all together and this has been such a life savior.

3. Plan weekly meals for the entire family for the week ahead on the weekend

Getting food on the table was my second biggest struggle after getting back to work. I am fortunate that I have a very understanding and co-operative husband who loves cooking for us. But still, even after his complete support, there were instances when I struggled with getting Celine’s meal on the table. There were times when My husband and I would get back from work and feel completely exhausted and not want to cook that day. That’s when after reading up a lot of planning tips on the internet and also taking some good advice from my fellow mommy friends around here, I got into the practice of writing down our’s and Celine’s meals along with the snacks on this whiteboard and sticking it to my fridge so that I can keep a track. This habit helps me stay organized and sometimes not get stressed out thinking about what to cook. I usually do this on Saturdays, so that we have enough time to shop for groceries on the weekend.

4. Put your phone away in the night before sleeping

This is so important to increase your productivity. I have a habit of aimlessly scrolling my Facebook and WhatsApp messages not keeping a track of the time. Sometimes, even after lying down in the night I would keep scrolling through my phone or watch videos on YouTube for hours. Recently I have made it a practice to keep my phone away at 10 PM in the night and not touch it after that. This has helped me go to sleep on time and hence start my next day on time feeling fresh with a sound sleep.

5. Make the mornings easier

‘Plan ahead’ – that’s the key to balance mom and work life. Besides clothes, meals I would take a few minutes and just put everything out a night before that I need for the next day. It may be lunchboxes for the next day or your child’s diapers, sippy cups that the school has asked for, or maybe you have to be at a playdate or friends dinner the next day after work (put your outfits out a night before!). This might seem a lot, but it just takes me 5-10 minutes every day to plan my next day. I love using my small pocket diary which I keep in my handbag all the time, where I write down everything (to-do list, important family events, birthdays, etc., that helps me keep on track and stay organized).

6. Create a family calendar with all the important upcoming events

Such a great habit to incorporate. It helps me to identify and reflect on weekly priorities. I use this pretty calendar (from Amazon), where I jot down all the important things going around like upcoming birthdays, parties to go-to, important family vacations coming up (shopping to do for it), holidays, and a lot more. By writing down all these, I have been able to plan and get everything needed for the entire month. For example, if your child is invited to a birthday party, you can order the gift beforehand. Another tip is to order gifts in bulk for all the upcoming events that can save a lot of time, money and not make you feel insane by trying to run around at the last minute to get everything together.

7. Get to the gym for 30 minutes

I have been trying to do this a lot lately. Working out makes me feel good, positive, and happy and hence helps me be in a better frame of mind to handle everything around me and not feel overwhelmed.

8. Communicate openly to your manager

Having an open conversation with your manager after you are back to work can go a long way. Be fair to share your struggles with your boss so that you are in a better position to speak to him/her in case you need assistance/ favor with anything and the manager also does not feel like you are taking undue advantage of your situation.

9. Get a hobby or do anything you love

Having a good balance in your life is great but it all makes sense if you are happy. Just trying to do it all and getting everything done in a routine will make you feel worn out and unhappy. Make some time for yourself, think of it as self-care. Find a hobby for yourself that you like doing just for you. It may be simple things like gardening, getting a spa done, or in my case writing (anything that makes you happy!). You are all doing a lot of hard work and a great job multitasking home, child, and a lot more! You deserve to take some time for yourself. You owe it to yourself.

10. Let go of the guilt

Last and most important guys! Keep no guilt in your mind. I get it being a mom and being away from your child can make you feel very guilty. You might feel like you are missing a good time with them when they are so young and need you all the time. I have found myself feeling guilty many times in the past, sometimes leaving My baby to go to work in the morning would break my heart, or I have found myself looking at my daughter’s pictures at work and tears just rolling down my cheek (because I miss her so much). But, it’s all good. I always like to look at all the positives in my life and the good things that my family and I have gained by me taking some time away from them. Let the guilt not creep up and rust your mind.

I hope this post helped. I have tried to share the very simple to-do habits that have been working great for me and helped me keep sanity in my chaotic and ever multi-tasking life. If there is something that has worked great for you that has helped you gain a better work-life balance, please share it with me in the comments below. I am always looking for ways on how to improve productivity and be able to spend more quality time with my family.

HOW TO STOP FEELING STRESSED AND ENJOY MOTHERHOOD INSTEAD

Hello my beautiful people welcome back to my blog! On this post I’ll be sharing on How To Stop Feeling Stressed And Enjoy Motherhood Instead

Have you been feeling lost lately in motherhood? Do you feel stressed and anxious all the time? Find out ways on how to stop feeling stressed and enjoy your motherhood journey instead.

How have all of you parents been handling the lockdown? With me and my husband both of us working full-time, and with our baby at home to take care of and no help, things have been really getting crazy here. With the very start of the lockdown, I had started to notice that I was getting irritated all the time and feeling anxious throughout the day. With so much to get done in the day and no help, I am sure having meltdowns were unavoidable.

But something that I realized over the past few weeks is that these situations will keep arising all the time. Kids always have a way of shaking things up and not always everything will go as per plan, so why spend your energy fretting over every little thing that comes by!

The other day I had a ton of meetings at work, and all of them were from home. My husband had a crazy day too. In all this, I struggled to rush to the kitchen and make my daughter breakfast in the little time that I had. As soon as I set her plate, she started to cry, cried every time I left the room. It was a difficult day and finally somewhere in the middle of the day, I lost it and raised my voice at her, my husband ask why I was shouting at her the she is just a baby.

Later that night, I felt very guilty for what I had done. Was it really right? After all she was only being a child. Just because I have a ton of work to do, is it all right to get frustrated with her?

I don’t think so! 

There will always be crazy days and I am sure many frustrating moments like these to come by as my daughter grows older, but the only thing that I can control at my end of the day is how I react to these situations!

Over the past few days, I have been trying a few things that has helped me control my breakdowns and handle stressful situations in a more controlled manner. These are simple things that I have been doing lately for myself, and that has surprisingly been keeping me in a good mood throughout the day! 

I hope they work for you too and you are able to tackle your meltdowns and stop feeling stressed and anxious so that you can enjoy your motherhood all the more!


6 Ways on how you can stop feeling stressed and enjoy your motherhood instead

1. Waking up an hour or two before my daughter

Somehow this little habit of mine has always made me feel very productive throughout the day, which makes me feel very satisfied and happy. I wake up at 6 AM every morning and I am able to get a ton of work done early in the morning before my daughter is up. There is something really strong about feeling in control of your time that can really lift your mood up.


2. Not all battles are to be won

Isn’t that so true when it comes to kids? A few days back, I was holding the TV ( Television ) Remote control when suddenly she wanted it from me to play with. I tried to tell her that it will get really bad if she hit it on the floor but she wasn’t listening. And I don’t know when i struggle with her it always ends with a downpour of tears.

Hearing her cry for a while was stressful and I actually thought that I was going to lose my mind. So I finally gave in. I gave her what she wanted. Was that good or bad parenting, honestly, I have no idea. At that time, all I really wanted to do was keep sane.

This made me realize that not all battles with your little one can be won. You have to pick and chose the struggles of which some will be non-negotiable and in some, you can be flexible with.

Kids will test your patience time and again! Instead of giving in to every whims and fancy of theirs or having meltdowns all the time, it is important to take a minute or two to breathe and then decide is it really worth winning this one or can you be flexible!


3. Let go of being in control

You may not always have everything go as per plan. You might get late to work sometimes or you might not be able to get that thing done today as your kid needs you more at that time and you might eventually have to move that task to the next day.

Whatever the thing is, not everything will be in your control when there are kids involved and the sooner you accept it, the better you will feel at tackling stressful situations the next time.

4. Make self care a priority

I know sometimes with so much going around self-care sounds like an over-hyped word. But self-care never has to be anything big. It could be a few hours or even minutes a day that you spend with yourself doing the things you love which in turn will make you happy.

It could be simple things like spending some time gardening or cooking your favorite dish or watching your favorite TV series. For me it’s sleeping which makes me really happy, will make me feel refresh and it makes me very happy throughout the day. 

Pick what brings the most joy in your life and practice it for a few minutes in the day! You will start to notice a big difference in your life.

5. Plan your day

stop feeling stressed and enjoy motherhood

Honestly, you can never go wrong if you have a plan for the day. And isn’t it all the more required with the lockdown? My initial few meltdowns after the lockdown was because of not being able to get things done in time as there was no plan in place.

By the time I would have breakfast ready on the table, it would be time to start prepping for lunch which would eventually lead to missing outside playtime leaving my daughter really cranky. There were many situations like these that were stressful. 

Eventually, I had to come up with a plan in place to make things run smoothly at home. For example, my husband would make the lunch while I take my daughter outside for a walk and I would make the dinner while he played outside with her in the evening. Slowly and slowly we started to get better at this and now things seem to work much better!

It is extremely important to have a plan in place but at the same time remember to not get too hung up on it as you can never control all the situations around you when kids are involved.

P.S. – Every night before going to bed I jot down my next day tasks using this planner which I usually keep on my bedside bed. This simple habit helps me go to bed relaxed, knowing that I have an action plan for the next day and my mind is more composed with no mingled thoughts.

6. Surround yourself with positivity

Lastly and the most important thing, people you surround yourself with and the environment you are in greatly affects your mood. Having positive people and positive thoughts around you can greatly affect your mood and your actions.

Have you noticed that after you have watched a depressing movie, you tend to feel more gloomy and sad throughout the day? Or after you have come across a piece of terrible news, it just makes you feel worst? 

Somehow for me the environment I am in, greatly effects my mood and hence off-lately I have been keeping myself away from negative thoughts and negative people.

I try to watch happy movies, keep away from bad social media and befriend negative people who somehow only see the worst in everything around them. 

Surrounding yourself with positivity can bring a lot of happiness in your life which in turn can help you enjoy your motherhood more.

There are always going to be stressful and difficult situations in the near future. Instead of feeling stressed about all of them and ruining your day, take a few moments to look at the other side of the picture and look for things that can help improve the situation and not take it down. Trying to do small things for yourself and changing the way you react to situations can help you be in a happy mood and stop feeling stressed so that you can enjoy your motherhood journey all the more.

For all of you beautiful moms, I had come across this beautiful quote that just stuck with me really hard. Hopefully, it does the same magic for all of you too!

“You will never have this day with your children again. Tomorrow they’ll be a little older than they were today. This day is a gift. Just breathe, notice, study their faces and little feet. Pay attention. Relish the charms of the present. Enjoy today, it will be over before you know it.

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10 WayS TO BECOME A MORE PATIENT PARENT

Hello fams welcome to my blog! On today’s I’ll be sharing on 10 Ways To Become A More Patient Mom

Developing patience is an art but after becoming a parent it is a must. Sharing a few simple steps that you can practice to become a more patient parent.

I have always thought of myself as a very patient person as someone who would deal with any situation with a lot of think through and calmness. But things changed after I became a mother. No matter how much patience I had, I could feel that in many situations I just wanted to give in. For instance, a few months back when my daughter was eight months old she had hit a new development milestone and was in the phase where she just wanted to cling to me all the time. She could not bear the idea of me being out of sight even for a few minutes. If I used the restroom I would hear her banging the door and crying out loud from the other end, if I was cooking she would hold my legs and just keep crying and the nights were the worst when she just disagreed to let go of me. On my end, I was feeling completely drained out. After a full day of work, running around, taking care of a little one, and not getting even a few moments at the end of the day for myself I was at the point of completely losing it. All this started to affect me a lot mentally. I was not taking good care of myself at all, looking at everything in a very negative way, and most importantly complained about everything around.

It was one of those nights when I had a long day at work and no rest at home after that and suddenly in the middle of the night, my daughter woke up crying out loud. Thank god for my amazing husband who took control of this situation. It was a very tough night. During this moment I took some time to reflect and think over what was really happening and what was going wrong. I cannot blame my baby or yell at her for her need to be around me because at the end of the day she is just being a child who needs all the love from me. Thinking about this I took out a pen and paper and jot down a few things that I promised myself to follow for the coming few weeks to bring a change in my attitude so that it will help me change my mindset, make me look at things in a positive way and mostly help me become a better parent and more patient parent to my little girl.

I reminded myself for the next couple of weeks again and again to follow these steps and I could feel a huge difference in my mindset and attitude. I had suddenly learned the art of being able to adjust my expectations when it came to getting work done, look at things more positively around me, deal with my daughter’s tantrums, and fussiness with a lot more patience and overall feel blessed for being gifted with this beautiful family. Here is how I learned to relax and be a more patient mother.

  1. Every morning make a list of to-do tasks for the day and rank them as per priority – A great way to mentally adjust your expectations for the day. Having a to-do list helped me be more organized and I did not feel that stressed about things not getting done.
  2. Adjust your expectations – This is so important. Being a parent is hard work and there is a lot to get done. If, as per your expectations you were not able to clean the home or load the dishwasher don’t fret over it. Understand that it is not the most important thing in the world, your kid is. More than having a clean home, it is important to have a happy child.
  3. Plan your meals ahead of time for the week – I use to stress a lot about this all the time. Feeding your child and more importantly good and healthy food is the most important thing on any parent’s mind. But after a long day at work and dealing with the little one’s tantrum, keeping up with cooking daily can get very tough and very stressful. I started taking some time out on Sunday night and making a list of all the meals that my little girl will be eating over the coming week and sticking it on my wall . This was very helpful to me and helped me feel more relax. I use these post-it sticks notes to make my list. Also, this one is a good option and this one also.
  4. Time management – Something I struggle with often and I am still trying to become better at it. Managing your time between getting ready, going to work, playtime with my daughter, and cooking is very important. But again, it is also important to remember, that things might not always go as per plan. At that time take a step back and adjust your expectations and understand what is really important to get done and what can be tossed over to the next day.
  5. Count to 1,2,3 – Whenever you face a situation where you have a compelling urge to yell at your little one just count to 1,2 3. This has helped me by diverting my mind and helping me understand that my little one is just being a child and the situation is passed on.
  6. Meditate – There are many benefits of meditation one of them is learning to be more patient. I meditate for 10 minutes every morning when the house is the quietest with everyone asleep by closing my eyes and listening to soft music and trying to disconnect with all my thoughts. This has been such a game-changer. It has helped me gain a better perspective on life. I look forward to the day with a lot more enthusiasm and cherish all the good times I get to spend with my little girl.
  7. Do one good thing for yourself in a day to recharge yourself – For me, that good thing is listening to music spending time with myself. Giving this a me-time gift to myself makes me feel so good, energized, and happy.
  8. Understand your child – Give some thought to what can help your child calm down in extreme situations. Maybe it’s nursery rhymes, or it is rocking and taking your child for a walk outside. Whatever it is that will distract and help your child calm down use it to your benefit in those times when things get really crazy.
  9. Laughter therapy – A small trick but can help you through any situation. My daughter is still a very light sleeper and wakes up crying and wants to be rocked in the middle of the night. Instead of getting angry, scolding her I just laugh when she is being pushy. It sounds funny but it is such a huge ice-breaker. Recently while I was smiling at my daughter’s tantrums in the night, my husband laughed along with me and this made me realize that these are the moment although really rough right now but will always be our most treasured memories of us bringing up our child together and trying to do the best we can for her.
  10. Look at the bigger picture – At the end of it all, when all the above steps fail. Just pause for a moment and look at the bigger picture. Your child growing up is a phase, tomorrow there will be a new phase with new challenges but this day will pass and you might miss it. Like I miss the times when I could just hold my little girl and all she wanted to do all the time was to eat and sleep. At that time, being a new mom I felt tired and exhausted but those were some of my most treasured memories.

Love your child, embrace your day. Every day with your little one is a blessing, treasure and enjoy it to the most you can.

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How to Clean Jewelry Naturally and Silverware Too

Hello beauties welcome back to my blog! Trust your day is going on well. On this post I’ll be sharing on How To Clean Jewelry Naturally And Silverware Too

How to Clean Jewelry Naturally and Silverware Too

Cleaning your jewelry at home using natural ingredients is easy to do with a few things you probably already have in your pantry. This tutorial will show you How to Clean Jewelry Naturally in minutes! You won’t believe how well it works!

A while back, I showed you How to Clean Copper In Seconds  with ease. My method for cleaning jewelry is almost exactly the same, but It take a little more care when cleaning small delicate pieces. This method works great for all of the jewelry, both silver and gold, and it’s use to clean wedding rings as well. 

WHAT DO YOU USE TO CLEAN JEWELRY AT HOME?

  • Aluminum foil
  • 1 tablespoon of baking soda
  • 1 tablespoon of salt 
  • 1 tablespoon of dish liquid
  • 1 cup of warm water
  • Bowl
  • Toothbrush

HOW DO YOU CLEAN JEWELRY AT HOME?

Step 1 – Place a piece of foil in the bottom of your bowl.

Step 2 – Add one cup of warm water.

Step 3 – Add 1 tablespoon each of baking soda and salt.

Step 4 – Add 1 tablespoon of dish liquid and mix well.

Step 5 – Add pieces of jewelry and let them soak for about 10 minutes.

Step 6 – Give each piece a gentle scrub using a clean toothbrush.

Step 7 – Rinse each piece in cold water.

Step 8 – Air dry on a towel, then wipe each piece down to make sure it’s completely dry.

I love that I can get all of my jewelry clean without the use of harsh, store bought chemical-filled jewelry cleaners that can possibly even tarnish your jewelry!

Happy cleaning my friend! If you ever have any cleaning questions or tips that you’d like to share, share them with me in the comment section

How To Clean Copper In Seconds

Hello my beautiful people welcome to my blog! On Today’s post I’ll on How To Clean Copper In Seconds

How To Clean Copper In Seconds
How To Clean Copper In Seconds

Metal pieces made of brass, silver, and copper add warmth and elegance to any room. Over time, however, they’re bound to lose their luster, developing a layer of tarnish. Even in optimal conditions-a cool, dry setting out of direct sunlight-tarnish can’t be avoided. That’s because it’s caused by the reaction between a metal object and its environment. While tarnish itself isn’t harmful, it can be unsightly. Luckily, it’s easy to polish away

You’ll want to take extra care when it comes to copper. Cleaning it can be especially tricky – if you scrub it too hard, you can scratch the copper and remove the finish. In order to safely and properly clean and polish this metal. Here are steps to help guard you.

The before…while it looks beautiful, it’s covered in tarnish.

How To Clean Copper In Seconds

To start, cut a fresh lemon in half.

How To Clean Copper In Seconds

Dip half of your lemon in kosher salt (table salt will work too).

How To Clean Copper In Seconds

Use the lemon to scrub the salt and lemon juice all over the copper piece your are cleaning.

How To Clean Copper In Seconds

The lemon and salt work so well together and the tarnish will start to disappear. It works like magic! Once you have cleaned the entire surface, just rinse with water and dry with a clean towel.

How To Clean Copper In Seconds

It’s magic how it immediately removes the tarnish. I use this method instead of dipping the lemon in the salt to prevent the salt from scratching the copper,” notes Reichert. Additionally, she advises that if you don’t have lemon juice, you can use orange juice as it is also acidic.

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Ways To Rock Ankara Fashion For Couples

Ankara fashion is inarguably one of the most trendy pieces clothing promoting the African heritage from the intricate design and technique to the gorgeous modern style that can be sewn,this beautiful fabric can be use for any/ and or any occasion. These day a lot of Nigeria couple love to “twin” in matching Anakra outfits below are some of the lovely styles

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Check Out These Stylish Face Masks

Hello beautiful people welcome to my blog! On today post I’ll be sharing on Stylish Face Mask

Fashion/looking good in what ever condition is never overlooked by stylish people Afterall as they say looking good is good business.

CDC recommends that wearing cloth face coverings in public settings where other social distancing measures are difficult to maintain (e.g., grocery stores and pharmacies), especially in areas of significant community-based transmission.

CDC also advises the use of simple cloth face coverings to slow the spread of the virus and help people who may have the virus and do not know it from transmitting it to others.  Cloth face coverings fashioned from household items or made at home from common materials at low cost can be used as an additional, voluntary public health measure.

That’s where Stylish people comes in with stylish face mask.

Ankara face mask, matching pattern might make some sense. Maybe.

Ankara face mask

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